Feeling Good Means Feeling Safe
Both partners have a right to feel safe in a physical or sexual
relationship. One way that a couple needs to feel safe is with each
other. If you are thinking about taking part in a sexual relationship with
someone, ask yourself:
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"Do I respect this person?"
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"Does this person respect me and my sexual 'comfort
zone'?"
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"Is there trust between us?"
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"Do we talk to each other and listen too?"
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"Is this person there for me if I need help?"
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"Do we share things other than sex?"
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"Can I talk about birth control and/or disease
prevention with this person?"
If the answer to any of these questions is no, chances
are that this is not a good person to have or continue to have a sexual
experience with. Talking about sexuality with this person may be
difficult. Ask yourself if you really want to be sexually involved
with someone who you cannot talk to, who doesn't listen to how you feel, or who
doesn't respect your sexual 'comfort zone'. Take the time to Stop, Think,
Act and Respond. If you are now having sex with someone and
you don't want to keep having sex with that person, you can make the choice to
stop having sex. It's your choice to make.
